Freedom and Responsibility (and Addiction)

Freedom and Responsibility (and Addiction)

The experiences of freedom and responsibility are very closely tied to addiction, but are so much more in the forefront of a human being’s struggle that addiction is quite secondary and symptomatic.  It is not the major issue.  Many clients are in addiction because it is the ultimate place to hide from freedom and responsibility.  “That’s crazy,” you say!  Yes and No.  We all do a lot to run from freedom and responsibility.  “No, not me!” As human beings we live within many paradoxes, and one major paradox we deal with on a daily basis is confronting our freedom and responsibility.  We both crave it and run from it.  People will die for it (terrorism, martyrdom, etc.) and die to avoid it (addiction).

I will let someone else explain this better than I and then discuss.  Yang (2009) writes:

According to Fromm, freedom is unavoidably tied to responsibility and destiny. Responsibility is equated with authorship.  Jean-Paul Sartre (1956) wrote that to be responsible is to be “the uncontested author of an event or thing” (p. 633). To be aware of responsibility is to be aware of creating one’s own self, destiny, life predicament, feelings, and, if such be the case, one’s own suffering. Sartre, like Fromm, believes that human beings are doomed to freedom.  Again, a paradox. (p. 184).

How can discussing freedom sound so negative and depressing??!!  No one ever said the existentialists were a bubbly sort and their writings definitely struggle with the sunnier side of life, but they do write about human realities. We are in a paradox.  We do fear our own freedom.  We do fear our own sense of responsibility.  It can feel like walking a plank.  It can make us want to run Home or stay in bed.

Addiction is also a paradox.  It can serve both as a way to avoid, as well as, a way to discover.  It can be a way one’s psyche forces them to take responsibility.  The only way out of addiction is to take responsibility and confront one’s freedom.  I have seen adolescents and people in their twenties arrive in addiction because so much was done for them by parents that they don’t know how to stand on their own two feet.  Addiction is a way to cope with that but it is also a way to change the dynamics in the relationship so drastically that parents can no longer “rescue” their “child” and that child is forced, by their own accord, to grow up, take responsibility, and live life.  This becomes a choice for the person in addiction.  Do they want freedom?  Without choice and responsibility, we have no freedom.

As the quote stated above, the scariest thing about responsibility and freedom is that it is ultimately up to us to create our life, “to be the uncontested author” of our lives.  We create our predicament.  “No, not me, the government screwed me, my parents have wronged me, my boss is unfair, my family won’t talk to me, I have a disability, I’m clinically depressed!!!”  We all have limitations, and some more than others, but the only true way out of them is to realize what responsibility we do have for our feelings, our thoughts, and our lives.  There are also limits to freedom, and accepting and realizing this will help to “experience” freedom within those limits.

But why is it so scary to be the author of our lives?  That’s what we want isn’t it???  Yes and no.  If it is all up to us, then we are very much to blame.  We don’t’ want to hear that.  We don’t want to feel like failures in a world that expects perfection the first time.  We want a place to lay blame if it doesn’t work out.  “I’m not clean because that treatment center sucks!”  “I cheated on my wife because she won’t have sex with me.”  “You made me angry.”  “I can’t go after my dreams because my mother needs me to take care of her.”  Even the things we think are to blame are choices we make.  We already are the author’s of our lives but we can often ignore that.

Accepting responsibility for everything, gives us freedom.  Realizing we make choices everyday, and accept responsibility for those choices, gives us freedom.  Freedom is scary, but once we step into it, it is liberating.  We are all looking for some aspect of liberation, but ultimately we are needing full liberation from ourselves – that part of ourselves that gets in the way of freedom: our fear.

Hoffman, L., Yang, M., Kaklauskas, F., & Chan, A. (2009). Existential Psychology East-West. University of the Rockies Press: Colorado

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5 responses to “Freedom and Responsibility (and Addiction)

  • anju.s.asawat

    This makes sense.I attended a meditation course last year and it has bought about a great change in my thinking.
    Taking responsibility did indeed free me of all the pain I had stored inside me and it put an end to the blame game.It also made me realize that I was the creator of all the pain within me.Another meaning of responsibility RESPONSE – ABILITY to situations in life,this really changes your whole world and leads you to freedom.Freedom to all.

  • Addiction

    Religion has also allowed for freedom from religion. Many people have turned to faith to allow them to defeat their addictions.

  • addiction help

    Thanks for the wonderful spin on addiction with the use of responsibility and freedom. I admire your straightforwardness in making people realize that addiction is 1.) a choice, 2.) that choice has already been made, 3.) that choice can be reversed. Until that realization is reached, only minute progress can be expected from recovering addicts. All the best!

  • Carla

    Good job, this makes sense. Only we can liberate our mind from any addiction. We have to except the responsibility in order to realize it is a problem, then work on being free from ourselves. We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us…

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